Audio Roundup Special: Rabbi Bednarsh Kiddushin

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by Joel Rich


Rabbi Assaf Bednarsh-Kiddushin  Camp Morasha 2005

Kiddushin 01 – Mishna 29a – Metzuveh V’oseh vs. Einah Metzuveh

When women complete the act of a time bound mitzva, do they have a kiyum for that specific mitzva or a more general kiyum of doing something that HKBH wants? Possible nafka minas explored.

Are women’s ptur based on them having other higher priorities or lack of need due to their nature being different than that of men?

Kiddushin 02 – Mishna 29a: The Mitzvah of Mila

Is the chiyuv of brit on the father or the son? Nakfa minas explored. Is brit a mitzva asei shehazman grama?

Kiddushin 03 – Women and Mila

Why can’t someone else put on tfillin for you? (mitzva bguf, no no baalut).

Who can/should do the brit? Possibilities include the father, a shaliach or even a katan?

Defining a mitzvah asei shehazman grama explored further.

Kiddushin 04 – Women and Mila

What is the nature of the mother’s chiyuv in the brit of her son? Opinions range from none, to the same as any other Jew, to only secondary to the father.

Kiddushin 05 – Women and Pidyon Haben

Similar question to brit – who is primarily responsible for pidyon habein – father or son? (eg what if both want to do it?) How is mitzva dgufa adif defined?

Kiddushin 06 – Father and Son’s Pidyon Haben

On whom is the pidyon’s primary responsibility – father or son? How do pre-existing liens (apotikei, lkuchot) impact the cohain’s rights?

Kiddushin 07 – Mitzvah of Talmud Torah

R Chaim on birchat hatora being a bracha on the cheftza shel tora. What’s the nature of birchat hatora in general? The gra and mchaber differ on whether hirhur torah requires a bracha.

Kiddushin 08 – Teaching Women Torah

Discussion of women’s talmud torah – why isn’t it like any other mitzvah aseih shehazman grama? Why do Rashi and Rambam disagree on the meaning of tiflus? What other chidushim are there in the Rambam’s presentation on women’s learning? Is this about biology or a proper torah society’s hashkafa?

Kiddushin 09 – Teaching Women Torah 2

How to balance women’s TSBP for the masses vs those for whom it is meaningful? What are the arguments (“heterim”) for women’s learning today?

Kiddushin 10 – Talmud Torah vs. Getting Married

How do you balance the mitzva to learn with the mitzva to marry? How do the priorities of talmud tora and pru urvu interact? Is it a function of time and place?

Kiddushin 11 – How Long Can You Delay Getting Married to Learn Torah?

Is there a fixed age that one should get married by or is it subjective by individual? Is there an age at which it is a mitzvah min hamuvchar? How does one’s limud torah fit in to the calculation? Why did ben azzai never marry?

Kiddushin 12 – The Requirement to Teach Torah

Why don’t we follow the gemara and learn tanach? What’s included in mikra? What are a father’s and a grandfather’s responsibilities to teach (or pay for) mikra as well as general torah learning?

Kiddushin 13 – Yashlish Limudo

Starts with a review of different opinions on how to interpret the gemara’s statement on splitting ones learning into three portions. Then moves on to how to understand the gemara’s statement that we are no longer bkiin in maleh and chaser. What are the halachic implications of this lack of bkiut (eg using a pasul sefer torah, mitzvah of writing a sefer torah)

Kiddushin 14 – Chaseiros V’Yeseiros

How do we view our sifrei torah? Perhaps any of the malei/chaser issues don’t affect the meanings/drashot? (Are they kosher because we say malei/chaser isn’t meakev?) How do we reconcile the word counts in the gemara with what we actually have in our sifrei torah?

Kiddushin 15 – Why Is Talmud Torah So Important?

Is Torah learning important because it brings you to action or is it an independent value? The Rambam sees it as an avoda (like tfila) and thus as a direct encounter with the HKBH (which changes us). It’s as close as we can get to knowing HKBH.

Kiddushin 16 – How Much Do You Have To Learn Every Day?

Is the mitzvah to learn torah primarily about being osek btora or having yediot hatorah?

Kiddushin 17 – How Much Do You Have To Learn Every Day 2

Is the mitzva of talmud torah to learn “all the time”? It may depend on how you define all the time (eg how much parnasa related time you “need” {me-TBD}) Do you consider torah a vocation or an avocation? (No matter how much time you spend on each).

Kiddushin 18 – The Requirement to Marry off Children

Why doesn’t the Rambam mention the mitzvah of teaching your son a trade? The Rambam was very against torah as a paid profession.

Kiddushin 19 – Learning in Kollel

While the Rambam was very against torah as a paid profession, everyone else was ok with it, why? Either it’s for kavod (like the cohen gadol), for tzarchei tzibbur, or for a very good mitzvah.

Introduction to kavod av vs kavod eim.

Kiddushin 20 – Respecting Your Mother and Father, Who Comes First?

Analysis of kavod/mora of dad vs mom, especially in the case of dad telling his son not to say kadidsh for mom.

Sometimes it may be better to sin in private (if you can’t help it) and sometimes it’s better not to (if you’re doing it to get away with it).

Kavod av is very important in how others view you. Is it bein adam lamakom or lchaveiro (or both?)

Kiddushin 21 – The Basis of the Mitzvah of Kibbud Av V’Em

What are the nafka minas as to whether kavod av is bein adam lamakom or lchaveiro? Is the basis hakarat hatov or the transmission of mesora (our link to HKBH)? Why is there no bracha?

Kiddushin 22 – The Basis of Kibbud Av V’Em Part 2

Why is it that metzuveh voseh outranks eino metzuveh? Is reward for mitzvot triggered by something inherent in each mitzvah (which may differ for a metzuveh) or simply for listening to the tzivui? How does this play out for a suma?

Also covered, is havdalah part of kiddush or a separate mitzva?

Kiddushin 23 – Women making brachos on positive time bound mitzvos

Begins with a review of possible reasons why rabbeinu tam holds that a woman can make a bracha on a mitzvat ashei shehazman grama and its application to the rama’s position on women/havdala.

Kibud av stories and applications for difficult parents.

Kiddushin 24 – Respecting Mentally Ill Parents

Differing opinions concerning the drivers of the difficult parent story in the gemara and how they impact halacha today.

Is there a prohibition on leaving eretz yisrael and, if so, is it only for certain types of leaving (eg permanent, pleasure trips)?

Kiddushin 25 – When are you allowed to leave Israel?

Detailed discussion concerning the possible prohibition of leaving eretz yisrael and possible exceptions. Does yishuv eretz israel outweigh kibud av veim?

Kiddushin 26 – The Mitzvah to Make Aliyah

Rambam (doesn’t mention) and Ramban (yes) on yishuv eretz yisrael as a mitzvah. A number of reasons given why the Rambam didn’t specifically include yishuv in his list of mitzvot. If it’s not a mitzvah, it’s certainly a value! (Paging R Asher Weiss – ratzon hashem)

Kiddushin 27 – Moreh Av V’em

Theories concerning differentiating between kavod and mora av: positive vs passive, benefit vs not benefit (eg sit in his place) and positive relationship vs onesh.

Kiddushin 28 – Do you have to listen to everything your parents say?

Must one carry out their parents’ wishes which do not directly benefit the parent? Rashi – yes, most others – no. The reasoning may be related to kavod or mora

Kidushin 29 – Who has to pay for Kibbud Av V’Em

Kavod av costs are from the av unless he doesn’t have, then it’s on the son (ptur or hafkaa?). Is this chiyuv on the son due to tzedakah or kavod av? Is it a function of direct or indirect benefit to the father?

Kiddushin 30 – Who has to pay for Kibbud Av V’Em Part 2

More on the son not spending his own money on the father unless the father doesn’t have money – is it a ptur or hakfaa, a din in tzedka or kavod or mora? Do we differentiate between direct and indirect benefit and/or nurturing vs disrespecting the father?

Kiddushin 31 – Parent Mochel on His Honor

May a father mislead his son to teach the son a lesson? Insights into lifnei iver and kavod av versus other mitzvot (haosek etc.)

Kiddushin 32 – Kibbud Av V’Em vs. Talmud Torah and Other Mitzvos

Prioritizing kavod av vs talmud torah may depend on whether we’re looking at short term (stop learning to get a cup of coffee) or longer term (which yeshiva to go to).

Is there a din of kavod av if the av is a rasha? Do we differentiate in kavod responsibilities between pre and post mita for an av rasha?

Kiddushin 33 – Respecting a Wicked Parent

How is a “av rasha” defined? What is halacha lmaaseh with regard to an av rasha? (S”A is stricter than rama/shach). Can an av be forced to be mochel (eg a divorce settlement)

Introduction to kavod rav – must one still give a little kavod even if the rav is mochel?

Kiddushin 34 – A Rav that is Mochel on his Honor

Discussion of kavod talmid chacham(TBD) vs rabo murhak.

Yichud – duraita or drabbanan? Rambam vs Gaonim on whether halachot learned from the 13 midot are considered duraita.

Kiddushin 35 – The Issur of Yichud

Is yichud duraita or drabanan? The Rambam’s position on ngia is explained. What are the nakfa minas? How do we evaluate yichud with a pnuya?

Kiddushin 36 – Yichud of One Man and Two Women

When the gemara says that women’s daat is kal as a parameter of yichud, what exactly is the concern? This question has practical application regarding hilchot yichud combinations (the number and types (eg relative, young ….) of women involved).

Kiddushin 37 – Yichud with many men and one women

Covers stories in the gemara which fill in yichud details. Specifics regarding numbers and types of “participants” (non-frum, prutzim and non-Jews). How many are enough so that there be no yichud concerns?

Kiddushin 38 – Yichud in the City and on the Road

How long a time period must be projected to elapse in order to have yichud concerns? How do “on the road” vs in the city encounters differ and how are they defined for yichud purposes?

About Joel Rich

Joel Rich is a frequent wannabee cyberspace lecturer on various Torah topics. A Yerushalmi formerly temporarily living in West Orange, NJ, his former employer and the Social Security administration support his Torah listening habits. He is a recovering consulting actuary.

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