Audio Roundup 2022:36

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by Joel Rich

When the [Ukrainian] wedding celebrations were coming to the end (after a few days), wedding guests would put the parents of the bride or groom on a wagon and take them to the village inn (bar) for the so-called “selling of the parents,” which meant the parents had to buy everyone a drink. If the parents married off their last child (son or daughter) then the guests would make wreaths and place them on the heads of the parents and thus take them to the village inn. In this frolicking way the wedding celebrations would come to the end.

She found the information in a Ukrainian magazine published in 1889, which included an engraving illustrating the event. The magazine article was based on the works of a Ukrainian ethnographer, folklorist and scholar, Pavlo Chubynsky (1839-1884), who traveled through Ukrainian villages in the second half of the nineteenth century, collecting folklore information, which he later published.

In the 1800s, many village inns and taverns in the Ukraine were owned or operated by Jewish families, she noted. Therefore, every time the parents of the newlyweds came into the taverns wearing wreaths and treated everyone to a drink, the Jewish tavern owners saw this. It is very likely that this is how the custom came to be part of the Jewish wedding.


Letter on Thoughts on Tachanun:
In regard to “More Tachanun Please” , might I add that Tachanun, especially its physical, body-positioning aspects, follows on from our formal orchestrated requests in Shemoneh Esrei. We then leave the formalities behind and plead with reckless abandon. In fact, Shemoneh Esrei and Tachanun are all one prayer and thus one is prohibited from speaking between them (See Shulchan Aruch 131:1 and especially the Ateret Tzvi there). May all our proper prayers be answered speedily, and in our days.

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About Joel Rich

Joel Rich is a frequent wannabee cyberspace lecturer on various Torah topics. A Yerushalmi formerly temporarily living in West Orange, NJ, his former employer and the Social Security administration support his Torah listening habits. He is a recovering consulting actuary.

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