Three Cheers for the IRF on their Mandating Prenuptial Agreements
Guest post by R. Michael J. Broyde
Rabbi Michael Broyde is not a member of the IRF, but is a member of the RCA, a dayan in the Beth Din of America, was the founding rabbi of the Young Israel in Atlanta and is a law professor at Emory. A slightly condensed version of this essay appeared in The Jewish Press.
Recently, the Orthodox community has been rattled by yet another Agunah situation – this time in Philadelphia-Washington – and in all honesty, this is not the first and it will not be the last such case. Furthermore, we all know that genuine halachically viable solutions to the Agunah problem are hard to come by and might not even be within our grasp. But, we also know that Agunah problem can be functionally solved in practice, even if not in theory and the solution is clear and obvious: The Beth Din of America prenuptial agreement which can be found at theprenup.org really does work in almost all of the cases actually presented within the United States. Its structure – payment of money until a get is given – has a proven track record of actually delivering a get time after time and case after case. Everyone knows this. It is the vaccine against the agunah problem. But, like all vaccines, it has to be used before one has the illness – taking your vaccine after the fact never works.
Indeed, all of us who are genuinely interested in actually solving the Agunah problem have been pushing the Beth Din of America prenuptial agreement for years. YU Roshei Yeshiva have signed public letters endorsing it (see here – PDF) which says honestly:
The increase utilization of pre-nuptial agreements is a critical step in purging our community of the distressful problem of the modern-day Aguna and enabling men and women to remarry without restriction. By encouraging proper halakhic behavior in the sanctification and the dissolution of marriage, we will illustrate diracheha darchi noam v’chol netivoteha shalom, all the Torah’s paths are peaceful.
Many other halachic authorities have endorsed this agreement (see here, noting endorsements by Rabbis ZN Goldberg, Y Liebes, zt”l, GD Schwartz, O Weiss, O Yosef and others), and there is virtually no halachic controversy about its permissibility to use. The RCA has twice endorsed its use and encouraged its members to use it (see here) stating:
THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED that every member of the Rabbinical Council of America will utilize Pre-Nuptial Agreements, which will aide in our community’s efforts to guarantee that the Get will not be used as a negotiating tool in divorce procedures.
But yet, the truth is that for a variety of reasons — nearly all social or political — the use of the Beth Din of America Prenuptial agreement is still uncommon outside of the Modern Orthodox community, and certainly not used 100% of the time even within it. Many RCA members do not u se it. The next step is obvious also.
We need to agree — as a community — that every Orthodox wedding has to have a prenuptial agreement addressing the giving and receiving of a get. When every marriage is vaccinated against the possibility of the woman or man being an Agunah, Agunah matters will go the way of smallpox – it will functionally disappear as a problem even as we actually have no cure. A well done vaccine is as good as a cure. We all know this – but like many other communal matters within Orthodoxy, we lack the vision and authority and will to impose our solution on our community, even our own rabbinic community.
Not the International Rabbinic Fellowship. Recently, the IRF passed a resolution stating:
As a requirement of membership, IRF Rabbis may only officiate at a wedding where there is an IRF approved halachic prenuptial agreement, and IRF Rabbis are encouraged to participate ritually only in weddings with halachic prenuptial agreements
This is obviously the right approach – rabbinical councils throughout America need to mandate the use of prenuptial agreements by all their members and not tolerate deviation on this matter. Marriages without such agreement produce cases of agunahs – no different than children without vaccinations get polio – and it is to credit of the IRF that they are the first rabbinic organization to mandate the right solution to the problem. It is the IRF – and no other organization at this time – that is mandating what the rabbinical leadership at Yeshiva University is insisting is the critical step in purging our community of the distressful problem of the modern-day Agunah.
Nobody is right about every matter every time, but the IRF deserves three cheers for getting this one very right. I hope that other rabbinic organizations see the light and actually adopt policies with teeth that regulate conduct of their members in this area. We can cry of the problem of the Agunah, or we can work to fix it as individual cases arise, or we can mandate that the problem be vaccinated against so it ceases to plague us. I vote for the latter solution as the best idea now available to us and I think we should mandate that no Orthodox rabbi perform weddings without a BDA prenuptial agreement.
If your rabbi belongs to an organization that does not mandate the use of any prenuptial agreement, ask him why that is the case? If your rabbi does weddings without using a prenuptial agreement, press him to stop doing such weddings, and mandate that no such weddings take place on your synagogue grounds.
Perhaps, later generations will not judge us poorly for our inability to find a halachic solution to the Agunah problem – since we genuinely do not have one that we think works and many of us are looking as hard as we can. But future generations will judge us poorly for lacking the fortitude to mandate the use of a solution that we know works, but only if only we use it.
Congratulations to the IRF for seeing that the best solution available is the one that mandates the vaccine of prenuptial agreements.