Giving a Get

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R. Shlomo Aviner makes an important statement about how Jewish men should respond in the unfortunate case of a divorce:

Jewish divorce is not a system of monetary extortion. It is a way of separating when there is no choice, so that each partner can build a new home. Therefore, if you have already made up your mind that you are getting divorced, please give your wife her “get” that same day. You can deal with the money matters afterwards, taking all the time you need.

Then he makes a statement that would be wonderful if it were true. Unfortunately, it is not yet true:

If you abuse her, I will abuse you. We will all abuse you. The entire Jewish People will abuse you. We are a delicate people. We cannot bear injustice. We cannot tolerate someone’s extorting his fellow man, let alone his spouse. There are some people who own nothing but their own freedom, and enjoy no luxury but their own freedom, and precisely that you would steal from them!

About Gil Student

Rabbi Gil Student is the Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of, a leading website on Orthodox Jewish scholarly subjects, and the Book Editor of the Orthodox Union’s Jewish Action magazine. He writes a popular column on issues of Jewish law and thought featured in newspapers and magazines, including The Jewish Link, The Jewish Echo and The Vues. In the past, he has served as the President of the small Jewish publisher Yashar Books and as the Managing Editor of OU Press. Rabbi Student serves on the Executive Committee of the Rabbinical Council of America. He also serves on the Editorial Boards of Jewish Action magazine, the Journal of Halacha and Contemporary Society and the Achieve Journal of Behavioral Health, Religion & Community, as well as the Board of OU Press. He has published five English books, the most recent titled Search Engine volume 2: Finding Meaning in Jewish Texts -- Jewish Leadership, and served as the American editor for Morasha Kehillat Yaakov: Essays in Honour of Chief Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks.

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